Father's Heart Blog

To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”

Focusing on Desire = For your Husband!

This is happening all around us, all around the world. This is something that screws up our marital relationships as much as anything else. When you first read this verse you can be excused for wondering what the problem is, surely its good that the wife desires her husband – right? At least she is not going to desire the guy down the road!

The thing is, as hard as this may be to swallow, that’s an insecurity that you just need to choose to lay down buddy, if you the husband are loving your wife as the Bible tells you to, she will have no interest in other men, they are not wired the way we are, it is not a natural desire for a woman to look around at other men in the way that we do, we are moved by what we see – woman are not moved in the same way.

So the problem of women desiring their husband in this verse is that women because they get their value from their relationships, husband listen up – specifically the success of their marriage relationship, it is easy for a woman to make her relationship with her husband the primary reference point in her life and not her relationship with God!

This can be fatal, if she shifts from getting her value from God to what her husband thinks or says about her, then if her husband chooses to stop loving her, then her whole self worth can be lost, her relationship with the Father God can be completely unhinged, because her reference point has been the husband and not God.

As husbands we need to be directing our wives in to a deeper and deeper relationship with God and help her to see that her value comes from Him.

We also need to train up our daughters this way, at the time of writing I have an 18month old daughter and it is abundantly clear to me that she hangs on Daddies every word and approval, if I am upset with her she is distraught, I am not saying that this is wrong or unnatural, it is very natural, but again, we must school  our daughters to believe that she is loved and valued by God primarily and not man, remember in the same way that she idolises her Daddy now she will feel for her husband one day and while I want her to be madly in love with him – providing he is a Godly man! I want to be sure that she will be madly in love with her heavenly Father above all else.

We must as leaders and as family men do all we can to empower the women in our lives we must never draw people to ourselves, whether that be our wife, daughter, disciple, worker, we must love them and the best way we can do that is reveal to them the unconditional love of the Heavenly Father.