Father's Heart Blog

Jesus said in Mark 3:25 that a house divided against itself cannot stand. This is actually some pretty awesome family advice.

Division is simply having two visions ‘di’ means two. There should always only be one vision in the home! If not the children will become very confused, trying to run in two directions. Tragically feeling like they are going against one vision/parent all the time – this will bring massive tension and eventually resentment in the child!

A united direction or cause is needed to move forward in blessing in any organisation especially the family!

There must be consistency in that vision. If both parents are suggesting a different direction to their children, the child will no doubt take the path with least resistance, the easiest path, your then setting your son or daughter up for moral failure, as they will likely do the most compromising, less morally and spiritually demanding option now and in the future when the decisions mean more.

We want our children to make spiritually and morally big and tough choices, taking them down paths of blessing, leading them to make the tough choices that will set them up for victory in their adult life.
This is far more likely when Mum and Dad are promoting one united path way and are clearly guiding and the child down that path, so whatever you do be united. You want your house to stand strong!
The crux of the matter as I see it then is that Husband’s really need to make sure they are setting the bar high! So that the wife dosn’t feel she has to usurp her God given authority and try and nudge up the bar a little higher!

If your standard is too low then who can be surprised there is two visions in the home! Who can blame her for trying to get out front and lead – if the husband is not providing a clear path?

Remember although you are the point man, the one responsible for your family and so ultimately responsible for the direction you as a family move, God has given you a wife to be a ‘co heir.’

‘Co heir’ means she is equal to you – you just have the added pressure of bringing the direction. Though you should develop that vision alone! Obviously you want to be receiving it from the Holy Spirit, but after that we should be checking it with our wife’s and seeing that it lines up with what God is telling them, then you present it to the family in agreement.

Have you got two visions, in your home?

How can you talk this through with your wife to build trust and hope?

What is God saying to you for your family for 2015 and beyond?