Father's Heart Blog

If you’re a young man trying to be a disciple of Christ today, you’re swimming upstream. Voices are loud. Expectations are endless. Comparisons are constant. Somewhere between social media, cultural pressure, and your own inner critic, it’s easy to feel lost—or worse, to believe that being lost means you’re failing.

You’re not.

One of the quiet gifts of The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse is its reminder that feeling lost is part of being human. Scripture says the same. From David in the Psalms to Peter stepping out onto the water, God has always worked with people who didn’t have it all figured out. What defines us isn’t the storm—it’s how we respond inside it.

Home Isn’t a Place. It’s Love.

The world tells you that “home” is success, status, or being admired. Jesus tells you something different: “Remain in my love.” Home is not a location you arrive at when you finally get everything right. Home is knowing you are loved by God and learning to love others in return. That’s the reason we are here.

And love doesn’t always sound like saying the words. Sometimes it looks like showing up, forgiving, being patient, or choosing integrity when no one is watching.

Stop Wasting Time Comparing

One of the biggest wastes of time is comparing yourself to others. Comparison slowly poisons gratitude and replaces calling with competition. Christ didn’t ask you to be anyone else’s disciple. He asked you to be His.

As you get older, many men regret listening too much to their fears and not enough to their God-given dreams. Fear shouts. God often whispers. Toxic voices thrive on fear—fear that you’re behind, weak, or not enough. Jesus never speaks that way.

You Are Free—More Than You Think

One of your greatest freedoms is how you react to things. You can’t control every outcome, but you can choose humility over pride, courage over comfort, faith over bitterness. This is the quiet strength of a disciple.

And when you need help—ask. Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up. Even Jesus allowed others to carry the cross with Him. Strength in the Kingdom is never about pretending you’re fine.

Life Was Never Meant to Be Perfect

The greatest illusion is thinking life should be perfect. It won’t be. Storms will come. Doubt will visit. Loss will hurt. But storms always pass. When the big things feel out of control, focus on what you love: God, people, truth, what gives life instead of draining it.

Discipleship isn’t about having a flawless life. It’s about having a faithful direction.

You Are Enough—Right Now

Here’s the truth toxic voices don’t want you to hear: the best discovery is that you are enough. Not someday. Not when you’re stronger, more confident, or more successful. Right now.

You are good as you are right now. You always have been. You always will be—because your worth was never earned. It was given.

So leave the voices that tear you down. Walk away from the noise that tells you to be harder, colder, or someone else entirely. Follow the voice that says, “Come, follow me.” That voice leads to life.