You can give your wife the most expensive designer coat to wear (and you would be forgiven for thinking that this would complete her and make her completely happy) but this is a very temporal covering, the coat will one day get old, also it is a very materialistic covering, it will fill a need in the material and looks department, though it is a shallow feeling, if the rest of her life is not growing the coat will never make her look really great to people around her – people will see through it.

Woman get their deepest value from the relationship they have with the main man in their life, husband, boyfriend, babies Dad, or Father. If the relationship is not going well, a wifes life will seem pretty empty and strained. Likewise if she is not respecting her husband and his name she will feel pretty empty.

So what you need to clothe her with more than anything is a good name, she should be proud to call herself your surname, from the start she should be so impressed by you that she wants to bear your name, not a hyphenated name that still clings to the past and Daddy, but that she is so impressed by being associated 100% with you that she is looking forward to being renamed after you.

It is quite a thing to be renamed, sadly there are men everywhere that are simply not worth following! Men that are really still boys, that can’t lead themselves let alone a woman and in a few years a baby or two! So every young mans desire should be to be the man who is worth following, this will make you very desirable.

And to every married man are focus should be that when people talk to her about you she is blessed, people speak highly of you, she is built up and encouraged, if your boss, colleagues, family, close friends, church members, to be honest if anyone speaks about you to your wife she should get a sense of pride and satisfaction, this will be a covering to her that will keep her safe and warm far more than any fur coat.

Your name is to be a badge of honour, this is a great blessing and reward to your wife for bearing your name and aligning herself away from her Daddy to you.

The same will be true one day of your children, if others think good of you then your children will have an element of pride in being named after you and bearing your name. My greatest dream is that my children will stand with me when they are young adults and support me in my endeavours and dreams to accomplish something far bigger than all of us, but if they do not value the name that they hold, this is very unlikely to happen, if they are proud to be Smallridges and believe it is a credit to them then they are far more likely to stand up for the things I stand for.

So what are you doing today to make this a reality one day? What small steps can you make today so that people will speak highly of you? Do you have to walk in integrity more? Be more friendly and aware of people? Be more generous? Concerned? Less lazy? There are many things each one of us can do, they all require effort, but guys the pay off is always worth it. A confident and contented wife is worth its weight in gold!