Grandparents for most of us pretty awesome right? Do you still have your Grandparents around you? I have 3 of the 4 left. My favourite I have to say is my Grandad Bill, he always has been my favourite and when I was about 8 I remember writing in my diary at school that he was my best friend after reminiscing on a weekend stay at their house. The only negative seemed to me that he was a Man Utd fan and not Tottenham. We loved to talk football! We still do!

So my Grandad is now 82 and my Gran 80, a week or so ago they celebrated their 60^th wedding anniversary. Wow, 60 years of loving the same women and 60 years were others have looked in and seen you in love and seen you doing life together in unity. What better accomplishment? I had a speech written out, pretty much a year in advance after my Mum was talking of a party for them, turns out Gran and Grandad didn’t want the fuss of a big party, so they had a few family meals instead.

I didn’t end up giving my speech either, I was looking forward to praising them in front of a room full of people, but when we had them alone on this special day, it seemed more important to listen to their wise words than my words. So I asked them a few questions at the dinner table, like how they stayed in love all this time.

My Grandad the ‘great storyteller’ started up a new one, on me at least, I learnt that my Granny got bad arthritis at age 23, only 3 years in to their marriage, Grandad told us how she would cry in pain night after night, the medication in the 50’s were not like they are today, this as it would to most of us, had a great effect on him.

Imagine your wife laying in bed as you are trying to sleep and every time she moves she has to scream in agony, she can barely get any sleep night after night, at this time they had a 3 year old daughter and a new born daughter to raise, from that crises moment he says it was easy for him to lay down his life for her, from that time he decided to serve his fragile young bride in any way he could to make her life easier, and that has really been his mission ever since.

After raising 3 daughters together, enjoying 7 grandchildren and even 2 great grand babies now, they are still in love, still daily walk in joy and share much laughter, my Grandad as well as being a strong and humble servant is a master comedian, he has such a refreshing mood that brightens every room.

What I learnt from my Grandad’s explanation on their key to marital success is that I should start serving my wife whole heartedly each day, now! It will guarantee a LONG and HAPPY marriage!

So how can you serve your wife today? And tomorrow? And long term? What does she need from you? What does she nag you to do? Maybe it is time to build that trust and do it, so she doesn’t need to nag any more. My Grandparents are the fruit that this decision to bless your wife with service keeps one amazingly happy home that every child and grandchild wants to visit!